The head of a company survived 9/11 because
His son started kindergarten.
Another fellow was alive because it was
His turn to bring donuts.
One woman was late because her
Alarm clock didn’t go off in time.
One was late because of being stuck on the NJ Turnpike
Because of an auto accident.
One of them
Missed his bus.
One spilled food on her clothes and had to take
Time to change.
Car wouldn’t start.
Get a taxi.
The one that struck me was the man
Who put on a new pair of shoes that morning,
Took the various means to get to work but before.
He got there, he developed a blister on his foot.
He stopped at a drugstore to buy a Band-Aid.
That is why he is alive today..
Now when I am
Stuck in traffic,
Miss an elevator,
Turn back to answer a ringing telephone…
All the little things that annoy me,
I think to myself,
This is exactly where
I’m meant to be
At this very moment
I love you so much so take care of yourself while your out there. War is not something you should be fighting but I know your going to win and come back to me because we are meant to be together and you are too amazing to die… Like ever. Just stay safe okay I’m always gonna be yours
Nikki Reed & Ian Somerhalder spotted together as they continue to grow strong
They’re both vampires this is so cool
Anonymous asked: my friend attempted suicide earlier this week, and against her wishes i told. she went to hospital and is okay, but now she has to cope with so much more pain because i told. she says shes not angry with me, but i know she blames me and hasnt forgiven me. How do i keep helping her when i know ive caused her so much of the pain :/ im sorry for bothering you with this i just dont know what to do xxx
Hello my lovely anon,
I am so sorry to hear about your friend and the way this situation has affected you, please don’t think you’ve bothered me, I am here for you and for anyone, in any way I can be… I am so glad you felt you could share this with me, because it’s a terrible burden to try to carry alone.
It is a huge relief to know that she is alive and okay and in hospital getting the help and care she really needs and deserves. You SAVED her life. Do not for a second believe that you have done anything wrong or caused pain; what you did was make a very tough and very courageous decision that indirectly or directly saved the life of someone you care about… You are AMAZING and I am so proud of you for doing the very difficult, but very right thing. It’s an incredibly difficult situation to deal with, which no-one is to blame for, I’m just sorry that you’re both suffering through it.
I think what many people misunderstand about suicide, is that it doesn’t take the pain away - it takes away any opportunity for the pain to get better and be healed. And all wounds can be healed. It may not be easy; it may be a long and painful road, but no-one is so broken that they cannot repair and rebuild their life and self. Whilst ever you are alive there is hope. And that is what you’ve so bravely given your friend - the opportunity to find a way through her pain. Whether it’s now or at some point in the future, I guarantee that your friend will be extremely grateful to you for what you did. Please understand that what you did is not IN ANY WAY the cause of your friends pain.
I have been in the opposite position to you, having had someone intervene in my own attempt at taking my life. And I was angry. But buried beneath all of my pain and hurt, I was a little bit grateful this person cared enough to do what they did. As my mind recovered a little and my will to live returned, that gratitude grew and grew and I realised that I owe this person my life, and that’s debt I’ll never be able to repay. If not now, one day, your friend will feel the same way.
The first thing you need to do to help her is to make sure you’re ok. It’s only natural that you’re struggling in reaction to this situation, it’s such a difficult position to be in. But you need to understand that you are not in any way at fault and you’ve not caused her pain at all. It may be a good idea to talk to a professional - a Psychologist or counselor, or even someone at Lifeline, to help you deal with this and also to support you in supporting your friend. I am more than happy to listen and respond, on or off anon, but I am not a qualified professional and sometimes we need to be able to talk to someone in person or in voice to really feel heard.
Beyond that, simply continue to be there for your friend. She’s clearly going through an extremely difficult time and she may not believe it will get any better, but the fact that she’s alive means there is hope. And one of the best things you can do is hold that hope for her until she’s ready to hold it herself. Try to be patient with her… If she does have any anger, try to remember that is likely a result of her current mental state and when she’s more balanced she will be nothing but thankful to you. Support her and listen to her if you feel you yourself can cope with that, an remind her of all the reasons you adore her and that make her life worth not just saving, but living. Be there, but also make sure you allow the professionals to do their job. It will be really important for her recovery that she’s guided closely by qualified professionals and that she develops a trust in opening up to them.
Lastly, if ever you are unfortunate enough to find yourself in the same situation, please, do not change a thing. You saved her life. You’re a fucking hero. Keep on being your amazing self, your friend is so lucky to have you.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
~ Marianne Williamson
"We’re connected, as women. It’s like a spiderweb. If one part of that web vibrates, if there’s trouble, we all know it, but most of the time we’re just too scared, or selfish, or insecure to help. But if we don’t help each other, who will?"
~ Sarah Addison Allen
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
~ Brene Brown
Sending an abundance of love and light to you both xxxxxx
You did good girl, If you can do something even though it will make her hate you, then your the best friend in the world. You saved her life she will always be grateful of that
- One of the first women to start her own independent production company.
- Earned her way to stardom without sleeping with executives for roles.
- Refused to date people for publicity just because 20th Century Fox wanted her to.
- Left 20th Century Fox because she refused to let them get away with treating her badly and paying her a tiny wage, just because of her “dumb blonde” image.
- Was only paid a fraction of her co-star’s wage even though she was the star of the movies and the biggest box office pull, but still went ahead with the movies because she was so passionate about acting.
- Studied method acting at the Actors Studio with Lee Strasberg, who said that she was one of his best students along with Marlon Brando.
- Had a personal library of over 500 books and rarely read fiction - she was desperate to learn and educate herself.
- Was sexually abused as a child but then went on to encourage the sexual liberation of women in the 1950s.
- One of the first people to speak openly about sexual abuse.
- One of the first people to openly support gay rights.
- Supported many charities such as the Milk Fund, March of Dimes, Arthritis and Rheumatism foundation.
- Donated her time and money to these charities.
- Visited orphanages and hospitals on her own time to surprise the people there.
- Married one of the greatest literary minds of the 20th century
- Suffered two miscarriages and one ectopic pregnancy and still put on a brave face for her fans.
Sorry, did you say she wasn’t a role model?
marilyn is my biggest role model so don’t even go there
She is a role-model for me (see my avatar) simply because of her bravery during a rough life and at a time when women were not respected or considered equals (I should say, even less so than today). She had a lot of devoted women friends which makes me think that she genuinely liked other women and was not competitive with or threatened by them.
I do think there were times when she actually was exploited sexually by men in Hollywood and in politics, however.
She was not dumb, she was an intellectual. Even in the movies where she plays “the dumb blond” it’s pretty clear that her character isn’t dumb at all. She always had a naive and innocent air about her that made her stand out from other beautiful actresses.
Her mother was mentally-ill and Marilyn spent time in foster homes (where, it’s presumed, she was sexually molested). It’s fairly common for women who were sexually assaulted as a child to have a childlike but overly-sexualized affect (such as a little-girl voice) that roughly corresponds to the age at which they were molested and I think that was evident in Marilyn.
One other important note about her:
Marilyn was a big supporter of the Civil Rights Movement. Ella Fitzgerald was one of Marilyn’s idols and a major inspiration. However, the Mocambo nightclub in West Hollywood, the most popular dance spot at the time, refused to let Ella perform there because she was black. Outraged, Marilyn told the owners that if they would let Ella perform, she would be there in the front row every time Ella was onstage. She did, and the two became friends.
According to the great Ella Fitzgerald:
“I owe Marilyn Monroe a real debt…it was because of her that I played the Mocambo, a very popular nightclub in the ’50s. She personally called the owner of the Mocambo, and told him she wanted me booked immediately, and if he would do it, she would take a front table every night. She told him - and it was true, due to Marilyn’s superstar status - that the press would go wild. The owner said yes, and Marilyn was there, front table, every night. The press went overboard. After that, I never had to play a small jazz club again. She was an unusual woman - a little ahead of her times. And she didn’t know it.”
A good example of how not to judge women celebrities by their public sexual personas.
Yeah I love Marylin too so there you cock sucker!